By Suzanne Delica
So you have a big ego and that’s why she loves to sing about you. It’s glorified that you allow your pants to hang low and you wear a size 12. Oh, and how can I forget your irresistible swag, razor sharp tape, super fast car, tight glutes and defined abs, boyish smile, bad boy edge, athletic build, preppy boy style, model-worthy hair, baby blue eyes, …omg, the list goes on because you’re that good looking and your arrogance makes all the girls want to come out and play. But, if you don’t relate to these superficial things, you may think you’re in better condition because you are self-righteous, been saved for a year now, go to church and even lead a small group, feed the homeless, and serve at revivals on the weekends.
However, there is one thing (or a few things rather) that you and your alter ego have in common: you both are addicted to porn, fantasize about the raunchiest, sexually immoral things, participate in casual sex (whether occasionally with a “girlfriend” or on the regular), and both believe in God. I definitely think there is something wrong with this picture and I hope you do also?!
I would be lying to you, and you would be in denial if we concurred that men are sexual beings and cannot help being so visual or explicit; or that it is Eve’s fault and girls today make it too hard to stay pure in thought and action. If I am not mistaken, both Adam and Eve fell short in the Garden of Eden. And yes, some girls today do not understand modesty, but as a follower of Jesus we are called to guard our hearts and to flee from sin. So from now on, I encourage you to pray, fast, die to your flesh, ask God for strength, and move forward towards the goal of purity and integrity (Philippians 3:12-16). Except, the encouragement doesn’t stop there; I would like for you to really understand one more thing, something I know you will appreciate. Introducing, the “best sex you’ll ever have,” purity offers more than a sound mind or protection from STDs and AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, psychological/emotional damage, ungodly attachments, derailment of divine purpose and unnecessary ‘drama’ in your life, or a deeper relationship with your Father. With purity, you don’t have to feel self-conscious because you don’t have to prove your manhood, or measure up to worldly expectations. Unlike a Magnum, it’s one size fits all with no strings attached, nor performance anxiety necessary. Purity endorses a lifestyle that is always 100% effective.
Similar to girls offering their husbands their virginity and sanctification, you also have a gift to offer your wife on the night you consecrate your marriage—your integrity. “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service” (Romans 12:1-2, NKJV). To know that you waited patiently and diligently, abstaining from sexual immorality in a world where sex dictates everything, your wife will be honored and your marriage will be blessed (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). The most enduring part of you pursuing purity, is the perk that comes with the thrill of this chase: A virtuous woman for you (Proverbs 31:10-31)! “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22, ESV).
But wait! I must forewarn you, not in fear, but in light of realism – everything that comes from above is perfect (James 1:17) and comes with a price of crucifying fleshly desires and passions. There will be a defining moment that arises where you will have to reveal which god you serve. God will be on your side and you will be equipped with His armor (the breastplate of righteousness and a helmet of the hope of salvation); but your enemy will use your soft spot, your divine love for your ezer kenegdo against you. He will have her come to you with a flattering tongue of seduction, a wretched but undeniable beauty, eyelids that will allure you, and an unforgettable red dress signifying death and guilt (Proverbs 6:20-35). And at that very moment, you will be prepared to pray for her, the harlot, and not prey on her. At that moment, Wisdom will remind you that Purity is in your grasp (Proverbs 8:12-36), and your God did not die in vain but for this very moment. You will remember that a generation is dependent on your every move. Your heart will be so hidden in God because your wife’s heart is first hidden in Him and that’s where you must seek her.
This moment has been, is, and will be defined with victory of the blood of Jesus. And you will be like Elisha, watching the fiery chariots blazing out of the sky to claim what is yours to keep, and yours to offer to that one—your integrity.
I believe in you my brother! God speed and God willing, you are a conqueror in the name of Jesus. And that surpasses 30 seconds of fleeting pleasure otherwise called an orgasm! Blessed are you!